• Are the clergy members familiar with my child, and how can they become more personally acquainted with him/her before the ceremony?

• Can we go over exactly what our child will be doing in the service?

• How can we choose a tutor, and how often will we meet with him?

• Are all bar mitzvah services the same, and what can we expect ours to be like?

• What does the family need to do in the upcoming months?

• What reading materials would you recommend for becoming more familiar with the Torah?...besides the Torah.

• Can you explain the mitzvah project and the role that you will be playing?

• What are the synagogue’s rules and policy’s for bar mitzvah preparation?

• Can you recommend a family that has recently been through the process at this synagogue? Would they be willing to speak with us?

• How many aliyot and other honors are there in the service?

• May we choose special musical selections or readings?

• Are parents allowed or expected to make a speech during the service?

• Is there a dress code on the bimah or for guests in the sanctuary?

• Are there any guidelines that we should share with our guests?

• We will need to make a program for our guests. Do you have any samples from past bar mitzvahs that we can look at?

• How do we arrange for a photographer and videographer to capture the service for us?

• What’s included in our bar mitzvah fee? What is extra?